Why you Weren’t made to birth in the modern World (but you Still Can)
- Pooja Mistry
- Jun 16
- 3 min read
It’s easy to believe that your body is somehow broken. That birth is something to fear, to control, or to simply “get through.” But if you’ve ever felt deep down that something about modern birth doesn’t feel quite right, you’re not alone—and you’re not wrong. The truth is, women weren’t made to birth in the modern world as it exists today. Here’s why:
Because You’ve Forgotten How to Listen to Your Body and Inner Wisdom
You were born with instinct. Your body holds a primal intelligence, finely tuned for growing, birthing, and nurturing life. But from an early age, you’ve likely been taught to ignore that voice—to second-guess your gut, to look outside yourself for validation, and to distrust your body’s cues.
In pregnancy and birth, this becomes painfully clear. You’re told what’s “normal,” what’s “safe,” and what you “should” be doing. That deep, intuitive knowing? It gets buried under protocols, guidelines, and noise. But your body hasn’t forgotten—you just need the space and support to hear it again.
You Live in a “Fix It” World, Not a “Feel It” One
Our culture doesn’t like mess, mystery, or vulnerability. When it comes to birth, that means rushing in to manage, measure, and manipulate. Discomfort? Fix it. Uncertainty? Eliminate it. Emotions? Suppress them.
But birth isn’t something that needs fixing. It’s a sacred, raw, and deeply transformative process. The modern world struggles to hold space for that kind of unfolding. You’re expected to be efficient, calm, in control—and birthing simply doesn’t work that way. It requires surrender, not solutions.
You’ve Been Trained to Want Things Instant and Lost Patience to Trust the Process
You’re used to immediacy. Food, answers, entertainment, even relationships—everything is available in a tap or a swipe. But birth follows no app-generated timeline. It’s slow, rhythmic, unpredictable. It demands patience and trust.
Modern life has made you forget that waiting can be powerful. That what takes time is often what transforms us most. So when labour doesn’t “progress” fast enough, interventions step in. But what if it’s not your body that’s failing—but the world around you that’s forgotten how to wait?
Birth Has Become Over-Medicalised—And That’s Been Normalised
Today, birth often happens in hospital beds, under bright lights, surrounded by machines. Monitors beep, strangers come and go, and decision-making is filtered through hospital policy. While medical support can absolutely save lives, its routine use has made intervention seem inevitable—sometimes even preferable.
But birth is not a medical event by default. It’s a physiological process, driven by hormones, environment, and emotional safety. When you birth in a setting that treats you like a patient rather than a powerful, capable being, that power dims. And worst of all? You might not even know it’s missing.
So What Can You Do? Hypnobirthing and Doulas Offer Another Way
This doesn’t mean you’re doomed to a disempowered birth. You can reclaim what the modern world has tried to take from you—and two powerful tools to support you are hypnobirthing and working with a doula.
Hypnobirthing teaches you how to reconnect with your body, calm your nervous system, and tap into the inner strength you already have. It gives you tools to navigate labour with confidence and clarity—not fear.
A doula walks beside you. She holds space, reminds you of your power, and helps you stay grounded amidst the noise. She’s not there to fix or direct—she’s there to support and honour your journey, however it unfolds.
You weren’t made for the modern birth system—but you were made to birth. When you take back your power, reconnect with your body, and surround yourself with the right support, everything changes. You remember what’s always been true: you were born to do this.
And if you're still unsure of how to manage this, join my Hypnobirthing course or hire me as your Doula today!
Pooja xo
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