dear new mumma: please Stop Comparing yourself. you’re doing better than you may think.

From the moment you announce your pregnancy, the world starts watching — and so do you.

You start looking around, often without even realising it. That mum got her body back in six weeks. That celebrity looks glowing with a newborn and a full face of makeup. That influencer’s home is spotless, and her toddler is eating quinoa with a smile… Meanwhile, you’re trying to remember if you brushed your teeth today.

Let’s take a deep breath together, because here’s the truth you need to hear:

You are not her — and you’re not meant to be.

Social Media: The highlight reel, not the whole story

It’s easy to forget that Instagram, Facebook and TikTok are curated. They are polished snippets — filtered, edited, and often staged.

You’re comparing your real, raw, in-the-middle-of-it journey with someone else’s carefully selected moments. That’s not just unfair — it’s exhausting.

Behind every perfectly styled nursery or smiling family photo, there’s a pile of laundry, a tearful night, or a moment of self-doubt that didn’t make it online. We don’t post the meltdowns or the 2am feeds where we’re crying into cold tea. But they’re there. They’re normal. They’re human.

Everyone has a different story

Your life, your upbringing, your support system, your baby, your body, your emotional world — they are yours.

Which means your motherhood journey will look completely different to anyone else’s. And that’s not just okay — that’s beautiful.

We all carry different loads, seen and unseen. Some mothers have a village. Others are doing it solo. Some have flexible jobs or family help, while others are juggling work deadlines, sleepless nights, and endless to-do lists. We can’t compare the weight of our worlds when we don’t know what each of us is truly carrying.

What you see is not always what is

So many mums come to me feeling like they’re “not doing enough.” But when we peel back the layers, it becomes clear: they’re doing so much. They just haven’t stopped to recognise it.

Behind closed doors, we’re all figuring it out.

Behind smiles, there might be anxiety.

Behind order, there might be chaos.

Behind confidence, there might be vulnerability.

And yet… we keep comparing.

The pressure cooker of Modern Motherhood

We’re the generation doing all the things — balancing careers, nurturing families, chasing health goals, managing homes, staying “present,” planning playdates, making organic meals, and trying to keep ourselves afloat emotionally and mentally.

It’s no wonder women are burning out. The bar has been raised so high we can barely see it — let alone reach it. But here’s what we need to hear:

Parenting isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being present.

Not every day will be smooth. Some days you’ll raise your voice. Some days you’ll forget something. Some days you’ll cry. That’s real. That’s life. And it doesn’t make you a bad mum. It makes you human.

You are enough — Really

Motherhood isn’t a performance. It’s a relationship. The only measure that matters is how your home feels to you. Does it feel safe? Warm? Honest? Does it feel like a space where you and your baby are growing together, mistakes and all?

If so, you’re doing it right.

The only person who needs convincing is you. And once you truly start believing you are enough — not perfect, not Pinterest-worthy, just enough — everything starts to soften. You breathe easier. You love deeper. You let go of the noise and lean into what actually matters.

So here’s your reminder, lovely:

You are doing beautifully.

You don’t need to be her. You just need to be you.

Your baby doesn’t need perfect. Your baby needs you.

You are seen. You are strong. You are more than enough.

✨ And if you need someone in your corner — someone to remind you of all this and more — I’m here. Whether you’re preparing for birth or navigating the early days of motherhood, my Hypnobirthing courses, doula support and parent & baby classes are designed to empower, ground, and nurture you.

📩 Get in touch if you’re ready to feel calm, capable, and confident — just as you are.

Pooja xo