There you go. I said it.
It's not all flowers, smiles and beautifulness!
In the world and times we live in... Being a Mumma is so lonely and boring because we don't have our village! We are isolated and constantly in a place of comparison which can impact our physical and mental health. No one wants to admit it but we are all living elements of it and it can be overwhelming, draining and guilt provoking.
As far back as I can remember, I always wanted to be a mum. I know it sounds pretty backward but the idea of being a mum was so appealing. Caring and nurturing others has naturally been a part of me for as long as I can remember. When I was younger, I was always referred to as "the mother" of my group of friends. The one who always looked after others, the one who's shoulder was there to cry on, the one who always listened, the one who always presented the balanced scale. I was made to be a Mum! It was innate in me!
I was also a qualified Early Years professional and I had looked after my niece and nephew independently from teenage years. This was definately me! I thought to myself... I have got this! I know the theoretical and practical part of being a Mumma, it's meant to be for me.
But you see, even though I had the experience, what I overlooked was the emotional aspect. Yes I had worked in Perinatal Mental Health so I was aware, but no one or nothing ever prepared me for the loneliness Motherhood brings. From being me, I was suddenly needed by my little human 24/ 7. With the cluster feeding, I felt I was being judged by others who chose not to breastfeed. I had lost my friends because I was the first to get married and the first to have a baby. No one knew what I was experiencing and Social Media made me think everyone else had their shit together but me.
I felt guilty believing I was the only one who was sat their getting bored of the mundane life of the same old. I felt guilty for the gender disappointment. I felt guilty for not wanting to go back to work but also not feeling like myself. And worse of all, I felt guilty for being so mean to myself.
Being a Mumma is hard, and when you don't have your village to support you it becomes harder. Life is about constant changes and adjustments and Motherhood has been a big change for me. It has brought challenges that I have overcome, but new ones I am always tackling. It has also taught me that I am not alone and that you are not alone.
It is OK to admit you are finding things hard. We don't all have it figured out and if we truly ask ourselves, we are all winging it and finding that we all compare ourselves. Ask yourself... How often do you reflect on your achievements as a Mumma? Not very often right?
We live in such a fast paced world we are forgetting to be present with ourselves. We are finding it lonely because we have lost our village. We have lost our connections and living so independently. We are finding it boring because we have been conditioned to believe we need to be doing things.
What we actually need is love, nurturing and support. Your baby will flourish when you flourish. You don't need the latest, fanciest, brightest things. What you need is your community. A community that holds you so that you feel that you can hold your family. And that's the essence of Mystri Mumma. It's not just your average antenatal or postnatal course. It's a safe space where I can hold you. It's a safe space where you can connect with your community.
It's your village.
No judgement. No expectations. Just presence.
And we welcome you.
Mystri Family xo
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