Why “going with the flow” isn’t always the best birth plan — and What to do instead
- Pooja Mistry
- Jun 30
- 2 min read
You’ve probably heard it before — “I’m just going to go with the flow when it comes to birth.”
It sounds relaxed, laid-back, and open-minded. But here’s the thing: “going with the flow” can sometimes mean being swept away by a current you didn’t choose.
Birth is one of the most powerful, life-changing experiences you’ll ever go through. And while it’s true that birth can be unpredictable, that doesn’t mean you have to let go of the wheel. In fact, the key to a positive, empowering birth isn’t about having a rigid plan — it’s about knowing your options and feeling in control, even when things deviate from your ideal.
Be open-minded — but stay informed
Being open-minded doesn’t mean being passive. It means understanding that while birth can take unexpected turns, you are still at the centre of every decision.
It means having the confidence to say:
✨ “Yes, this is what I want.”
✨ “No, that doesn’t feel right for me.”
✨ “What are my options?”
Here’s a powerful truth that shapes every decision during birth:
If you don’t know you have a choice — you don’t have a choice.
So often I meet parents who didn’t realise they could say no to certain procedures or ask for alternatives. They look back on their experience feeling like passengers instead of drivers — and that’s not how birth should feel.
Control isn’t about perfection — it’s about confidence
You don’t need to predict exactly how your birth will unfold. What you do need is the knowledge, mindset, and support to adapt with strength and clarity. When you feel empowered, you can shift direction without losing your sense of self.
This is where Hypnobirthing and having a doula makes all the difference.
It’s not just about breathing techniques or visualisations (though those are brilliant too!). It’s about:
🌿 Understanding your rights and choices
🌿 Feeling confident in conversations with your care providers
🌿 Creating a birth environment that supports your body and your baby
🌿 Having someone by your side who knows you and your preferences
🌿 Navigating twists and turns with calm, clarity and informed decision-making
Your Birth, Your Way — Even When Things Change
Birth might not go exactly as you imagined — and that’s okay. But with the right preparation, support and mindset, it can still feel positive, powerful and YOURS.
So instead of “going with the flow,” why not go into birth with curiosity, confidence, and a calm foundation?
I’d love to support you on that journey.
Whether you’re looking to prepare your mind and body through a gentle, evidence-based Hypnobirthing course, or you’d love continuous, personal support with a doula by your side — I’m here for you.
💛 Ready to feel calm, informed and in control?
📩 Get in touch to book your Hypnobirthing course or explore my doula packages.
Let’s make sure your birth story is one you feel proud of — whatever path it takes.
Pooja xo
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