Ok. So I am SUPER EXCITED to share this one with you!
There are lots of Hypnobirthing courses, books, educators. So which one do you do? The one that fits with your values. The one that doesn't waffle. The one that gives it to you straight. The one that makes you feel no matter what, you are not judged for your choices.
So make sure you do your research, but here are my 3 key ingredients for an EPIC Hypnobirthing Course that leaves you feeling EMPOWERED AND EXCITED FOR BIRTH!
MINDSET
I cannot and will not take the traditional element of Hypnobirthing away! It is the foundation of what I teach and without this- the other stuff just cannot fall into place. (Also it's not HYPNObirthing without this!)
Reframing the way in which you view birth is integral to the start of anyone's Hypnobirthing journey. For as long as I can remember (please correct me if you feel otherwise) all I have seen and heard, prior to my Hypnobirthing life, was negative births. A woman in a brightly lit room, panting, sweating, screaming and being told to PUSH (obviously on her back!) And then everyone starts saying "take all the drugs!"
This woman hasn't even started enjoying her pregnancy and others think it's OK to overload her with fear. Fear which she will take into her birthing journey.
ERM NOPE. NO THANKS.
By using tools such as relaxations, affirmations and breathing techniques you are not only reframing your mind for a positive outlook but you are training your brain to respond in a calmer manner to the FEAR- TENSION- PAIN cycle. You are making sense of things and understand WHAT the uterus is doing, HOW contractions work and WHY you are experiencing pain (yes I don't sugarcoat it- I make sense of it!)
Once you have this in place... you need a back up to remind you of all of this because sometimes in the moment, you can have a wobble! So who's this back up? Let's go to ingredient 2...
BIRTH PARTNER
I always tell my couples. Her role is to birth. The birth partner's roles is to do EVERYTHING ELSE. The list is extensive in my Hypnobirthing course but here are some of the things I recommend:
Observe and be with the birthing woman (we are not fixing here)
Building up oxytocin
Feeding and Hydrating her
Reminding her to visit the toilet
Reassuring her
Advocating her wishes
Being her bodyguard
Questioning the professionals
I could go on and on. But the idea is that as a Birth Partner you need to feel prepared for ANYTHING.
So as part of helping your be THE BEST BIRTH PARTNER EVER, you need to be clued up on different birthing journey's, your options and choices, how things can derail and how to speak with professionals. When you feel confident about all this, you can both write your Birth Plans (A- Z) together and then chop and change to see what fits you best on the day.
Forget being a lemon! Birth Partner's are the KEY to making this THE BEST experience together. No pressure so let's see how you can manage ingredient 3...
NAVIGATING THE MATERNITY SYSTEM
It's all good knowing everything on paper. But what do you do when things are happening in REAL. You don't know what's going to happen on the day of birth. You do not know who your will meet. What you want is for you to feel seen, heard and respected.
It's sad to have to prep couples for this but having supported so many families over the years and hearing coercive statements and fear- instilled decision making followed by birth trauma and guilt, it is a NON- NEGOTIABLE ESSENTIAL part of the course.
Because if you don't know you have any rights- you don't have any.
When you know you have a say in pretty much EVERYTHING when it comes to your birth (stating the obvious here but if it is happening TO YOUR BODY, YOU HAVE A SAY!) You can question, accept or decline as you feel appropriate for you. There is never a right or wrong. It is about what you feel is RIGHT for you. This can only be done with BALANCED, EVIDENCE- BASED INFORMATION so that you can make INFORMED CHOICES FOR YOUR BIRTH.
So there you have it! My special recipe with my key ingredients! So if you already have them... I am rooting for you! And if you're sat there thinking "S**T! I don't know any of this?! NOW WHAT?!" get yourself booked onto my Hypnobirthing Course so I can share even more secrets with you!
Pooja xo
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